Calling OFF – A wise Decision??

He is not the way what I expected from him, down the memory lane if u ask me what he did for me, I will say nothing. No Sacrifices, no promises, and no more Love between us… She trembled hard; her voice is engulfed with mixed felling of rage and wretchedness. This is what I heard from my friend who married a person without her parents’ consent whom she thought that he will be her soul mate for the rest of her life.  I can very well appreciate her grit for the way she handled the hardships and finally making it successful by ending up in stepping to next phase of marrying him.  We all were happy that her sacrifices have been showered her as blessings that she got settled in life. Overwhelmed to see her, I thought of hearing her sturdy, powerful relationship clandestine of five long years, finally ended up in displeasing with heaps of disturbing thoughts that treaded on my mind.

Is relationship becoming so valueless? Is it so easy to break up?  Abandoning a loved one at their time of greatest need? The Decisions taken on haste is neither good nor will be fruitful later. Do those people realize what hurdles are gonna come as a setback. Will that leave a sense of guilty or self –doubt, wondering what we did with our loved one and to our relationship. 

When everything is well in love, what’s happening during those time when it takes a necessary step to evaluate your options and make difficult choices. Naive of the reason which bought them in the stage of calling OFF is bringing tears and struggle in their loved ones. All those dreams to become a good wife, a good mother, a good daughter in law and vice- versa for guy will be shattered like  a broken glass piece, where the reflections shows us what we are. 

The breakup of a relationship or a marriage is a traumatic event. Before this trigger a bout of depression, try all those means and ways to make things well and good.  Value the relationship, resolve the existing problems, provide enough space for your partner, and reduce your expectations……. steps are so many to just jolt down in a white paper? Will these be an effective step to make those two beautiful people stay together and lead a happy life. Overwhelmed with joy and happiness when two people who just love each other hold their hands to keep up the promises, to support each other during hard times, to be a soul mate till breathe the last is finally ending up everything.  I am still confused is that so easy to call off a Relationship?

Wonderful Day 

 Birthdays were like normal days for me earlier, nothing much will be on the scene. Birthday gifts, Cake cutting,  Flowers,  all this  i have seen in television which i never experienced in my lifetime . What was i before and what am now the drastic change in me is only because of one person whom i love the most in this beautiful world.. Baba a very big thanks for making it so special and  sweet with lot of smiles.....  His surprises  always brings laughter in my face . Am so happy for what am now , my lifestyle, my thoughts, i have changed a lot. August 30 became so special when he came and surprised me with  bunch of flowers a sweet puppy  and took me for a small drive. The day was fully packed with surprises. Without him my life will not be complete.I want to be with him always till i breath my last. My every seconds will be focused on to sustain his smile in his beautiful face.

Shopping with Deepan

 OMG !!!  i should say a big thanks to my sweet heart for giving me a clear image about the brands of  Guys Wardrobe. To be frank i love those two days with him exploring different wardrobes. As per the plans we put  long back me and deepan went for shopping. Out of any question arising in mind we first choose Mega Mart to make ourselves look stunning. Here comes the real  thing.We went and started searching for formal trousers for him. Since  the shop is providing some offers  we prioritized our options. i would have taken some 10 trousers,it became a common scene for the shopkeeper that am running with a piece and going near the trial room,changing this , that........ finally we choose one. Even after choosing one  i didn't see that sweet smile in my hubby's face. Soon after the billing my sweet hearts  eyes went to a casual shoe which was stunning, for buying this he didn't took so much time .......  keeping so much shopping in pending status we returned home. The next day we went to Express Avenue .  Shop by shop , things by things  at last deepan bought all those which he was in need.  Two solid days of shopping experience taught me , next time if  you want to shop with Deepan start early from home...

Yet it was a nice experience for me...... Thanks Baba for those wonderful days .... You means a lot to me

It was MAST.............

On the way from  Thiruvanmayur Beach we both were searching for a Hotel to have dinner. This time i didn't say yes to him for  Hot Chips..... A no to hot chips , Karaikudi, finally made us to stop our black pearl in front of Mast Kalandar. Thought of having some Dosa etc....... When opened the menu card we both realize that it is a North Indian Restaurant.Deepan  purely not having any idea about North Indian Food told me to order anything of my choice. Finally we placed the order. Was eagerly waiting for food to come. We received our order. WOW it was really tempting ..... We ordered  Indian Maha Combo which got Rotis, 2 veggies, Raitha, Pulavu and sweet oh my god ........... nice aroma , nice ambiance, sitting near to my sweet heart first time i was feeling very comfortable having food from a hotel. Still leaving space in tummy we ordered one HP 1 which contains some what similar Dishes....... I still can  get the taste of the food. Yummy roti with Dal makahni , Pulavu with raitha and adding a  sweetest moment  the saucy  Gulab Jamun made us to wind up  our sweet dine ...

 Too yummy Khana and sweetest wordings  near the exit door  made us to say " a big yes to have dinner in Mastkalandar"

Dew drops in leaves , cool air ............ filled stomach...... I was happy to hold my sweethearts hands....

 

 Chennai started Boring.........

I was happy  when i got job in Chennai ...............With full of joy and happiness in my heart  i reached here with an expectation that i am going to fulfill my dreams and wishes. Unaware about what awaits for me i started of my career. Felt exhausted with heavy summer, pollution,  people , hostel life within few days  i started missing my parents very badly, my thoughts started pulling me back towards my hometown.....As days pass by adapting the changes ,compromising myself i turned to be one among the millions in Chennai. As a silver line in the darken clouds,  my life took  its sudden turn  which was unexpecting  when i joined in Sulekha. My life became colourfull , started feeling  something new in me, felt very comfortable, safe and i became the happiest person in the world...:)

He bought light in to my life, showed me what is right and wrong, led me through the rigt path where my decison  will not make me feel regret at the later part of my life.........Ya......Deepan became my world , my everything, an inseperable part of my life. It was a wonderful experince to hold his hand, look in to his eyes and to see his wonderful smile  that brings laughter in my face and relief in my heart......

Everything  startded going smoothly,,,,,,,  but ........... still what is making me  to say oh my god  Where am I..... Summer in its peak, no water , no current in my PG , Sleepless nights , scary thoughts........ Enough of Chennai Yar................ One and half years in Chennai is now making me restless.... Waiting for a chance to go from here. Though i became unsuccessful in my path of carrer i will never  set back and cry because this Hot chennai gave me life..........Acquaniatnce  with Deepan  will  always make me to bow my head before Chennai............ No matter how far i go from Chennai  i will leave out an Emotional Attchment with Sulekha and Chennai for giving  me Deepan...... I wana hold his hand forever and want to move away from CHENNAI

 But Enough of  Chennai...............

Expectation Hurts ................................

Expecting something very eagerly and  finally standing with bare hand and tears in eyes is something that no one could bare. Why we are Expecting so much ?.............. To be plain why i am  expecting so much ?  it is a question that i will always run away without answering.

Don't expect ...........anything from anyone .

Several question's without an answer ?

 Each and every step in our life teach us so many things.  Be it a hard time or a happy occasion people will say that it's just part and parcel of life , is  really the  day to day things a experience in our life . But we will end up in saying that it is easy to take  that in a silly manner  because we are  the   victims of the grim realities that is happening in our life.

 What is the ultimatum of all these., Happiness or sadness........,  As days pass by we will forget the things happened but down the memory lane we will  remember all those that made us to cry.

Will there be anyone  who lives  in this world live a happy life by forgetting everything ?..